Ladies: We Need to Have Confidence in Ourselves

Chelsea Settles on MTV

I generally don't write posts directed at one particular group but, I felt the need to do this after hearing something on the radio and watching Chelsea Settles on MTV.

Ladies, we need to have confidence in ourselves. It's as simple as that. There are too many capable, beautiful, intelligent young women running around agonizing about the acne on their face, their weight, their makeup, their shoes, whether they're good enough for their man or for a man at all and even whether they are good enough for God.

Listen to me when I say it all starts with us. We have to love ourselves as we are. If there's something you don't like and you can change it, then CHANGE IT. And if there's something you can't change, ACCEPT IT. Strive towards your goals, don't just sit there mopping around being negative, thinking no one likes or loves you and that your worthless. We have to be better than that.

No one will love, have confidence in or appreciate someone who can't love, appreciate or have confidence in themselves. It's not cute and most importantly it will just continue to damage your personal worth and self-esteem. So cut it out!

Plus-Sized Salon in England

The reason why I'm even writing all this is because in England, many plus-sized women feel intimidated to get their hair done in salons because they feel like all the skinny people are looking at them with disgust. They hate all the mirrors and apparently it's just a overall horrifying experience. The only thing I thought was valid was the fact that sometimes the chairs and sinks were too small for the women.

WHATTTTTTTT?! Hold up!

Yes, let me repeat it again, ladies dread getting their hair done because of underlying insecurities. I don't know about you but when I go to my hairdresser to get my hair done, everyone regardless of size gets out of the chair feeling like a BADDDDDDDDDD *****. Period. Why? Because, you just got your hair done and you can care less what people think. I can imagine things are harder over there considering that the average size in America for a woman is a 14/16. In England, I believe it is much smaller. But, I don't think segregation between skinny and plus-sized people is the answer to anything.

Plus-Sized collection at 2010 NY Fashion Week

Skinny people and plus-sized people are not going to go away. Everyone needs to deal with they way they are or work to change/accept it. It's as simple as that. Retailers, designers, etc need to be more accommodating of everyone. And we need to love ourselves to we can work to change the industries we consume from. The sooner we begin to love ourselves, the sooner everyone else will change their attitude and begin to love us too.

We also have to be honest with ourselves, not everyone is gonna like us, or like how we look, dress, etc. AND WHO CARES?! Do you honey. You will rarely see me in heels, but regardless of what type of shoe I have on I always feel like a BADDDDDDD *****. And when I do wear heels, I still feel like the same BADDDDDD ***** that had flats on. Don't do things for other people. Do them for YOURSELF.

That girl Chelsea Settles had to figure that out on her own. I couldn't believe she was like "what if I don't lose weight? Who will love me if I leave for LA?" EXCUSE ME?! With an attitude like that, no man will be knocking down that door. I'm sorry. Don't make decisions based on other people, make decisions for you. I'm glad she made the decision to follow her heart and move to LA to pursue her dream in fashion. Now, will it be a long road for her? Yes, because the fashion industry is obsessed with size 0-4. BUT, if she's good at what she does and works on herself, she'll find her place in the industry.

In the end, ladies, love yourselves. Be confident. Do you. The rest will follow.

MB

How to Catch a Predator: iPhone Edition

People are hungry for money these days and after the statistics about the poverty rate going up in America, I'm not surprised that theft is increasingly becoming an issue.

This Friday, my iPhone was stolen. The last time I remembered seeing it, I put it in my bag. Whether it fell out or it was taken out of my bag isn't the issue at this point. The fact that someone found it on metro and took it home with them is what baffles me. In 2011, you must be a flaming idiot to think phones don't have GPS on them.

Find My iPhone App searching for a location

Which brings me to the post. Folks, protect your stuff. Why? Because other people want what you have and they are willing to take it and make a profit off of it. In my case I had a pass lock on my phone. Not because I thought anyone would steal it, but because people are nosy as hell and I'd prefer to give people access to my phone than have them all up in my business. I also had Apple's Mobile Me- Find My iPhone app.

Find My iPhone App finds the location of my iPhone 4

If you own an iPhone and you don't have a pass lock or the Find My iPhone app installed, you're a flaming idiot. Those two things will protect your phone from losers who like to steal iPhone 4's and sell them for $400-500 on Craigslist. Not to mention, it protects any sensitive information you may have on the phone. In the event that the phone is stolen, you can get the phone's location whenever it's turned on, send a message (usually prompting the thief to call a number and return the phone), it sets off an alarm for 2 minutes and you can remotely lock and/or wipe the phone. Now if you wipe your phone, it will disable the app and you'll be unable to locate it, so only do that if you're 100% positive that you're not getting the phone back.

The Craigslist posting that the kid had up (found it doing some personal detective work)

In my case, I was lucky. Blessed really. Some kid was planning on selling my phone and luckily his mom found out about the phone, told him he would not be selling it and she saw my message which had her name on it (after I did some detective work online). She ended up calling my dad and he went over there to retrieve the phone and gave her $40 as a gift ($40 that I now owe him which is WAY better than $500, I'll drink to that).

Police need to do their jobs. 

Needless to say, the app got my phone back with no help from the stupid police. I'm sorry if your friends or family are in the police force anywhere, but those bastards don't do anything. It was an open and shut case and no one wanted to deal with it. Not only did people give us the run around, they sent us to different police forces and no one was of any help. The thing that pissed me off the most was the fact that they basically said, yea if you don't see someone take something from you it's not theft. What the hell is wrong with this freaking country????

The only people that saved my phone were APPLE (thank you, I'm officially your customer for LIFE) and that lady who was probably told by God to give the phone back to me (thank you for having a conscience). It was my first experience really trying to use government services and they failed us. No wonder republicans are over "big government" and don't want to pay taxes. Y'ALL DON'T DO ANYTHING. They wasted our entire Saturday honestly.

Needless to say, I got my phone back within 48 hrs. I hope the devil is keeping score because every weekend God keeps showing off with touchdowns and field goals. I'm just saying...

MB

PS: I definitely appreciate my phone now more than ever. Don't ask to touch it for awhile, I'm bonding with it again. LOL. (not kidding)

Murdoch He Wrote...As the Clock Goes Tick, Tock

"Murdoch He Wrote...Murdoch He Wrote..."

If you haven't heard about the Rupert Murdoch scandal, you've been hiding under a massive rock. He's currently under fire in the UK because of a phone hacking scandal and people are calling for him to be investigated in the U.S. too. Why? Well let's see, this guy owns media and entertainment outlets that have virtually touched every American. Don't think so? Let me go down the list: 20th Century Fox, Fox News, New York Post, Dow Jones, The Wall Street Journal, DirecTV and even Harper-Collins Publishers. Yup, you've been touched by him indirectly whether you like it or not. Which means this scandal is going to have a significant impact on his companies here. The scandal managed to exposed the UK's interesting relationship between the government and the media (as if we didn't know that happens, come on don't be naive) and it has people questioning journalists and their "ethical" standards. Only time will tell what will happen to him and his "empire".

"As the Clock Goes Tick, Tock"

President Obama has had ENOUGH! Thank GOD. The man socked it to Rep. Eric Cantor (R-VA) during the debt ceiling negotiations and basically gave everyone a serious lecture and ended the meeting. People have been slapping, poking, beating, laughing, disrespecting, spitting, and anything you can think of on Obama. The man is doing his job, shut up and let's crank out a deal. YOU WOULD THINK these the Republicans would realize that allowing this country to default would slaughter the very hands feeding. But no they keep changing their position. And Michele Bachmann has some nerve talking nonsense that if the U.S. defaults nothing will happen. UM excuse me, for all my CONSUMERS OUT THERE...what happens when you don't pay your credit card bill or that financial aid bill? Your credit will get screwed, your interest will go up, and you won't be able to buy ANYTHING. DUH, it's not theory, it's a FACT sweetheart. If the U.S. defaults on it's financial obligations we're gonna be screwed, just like the millions of Americans out there who are unable to pay their own debt. All those idiots in office need to shut up, lock it down and come up with a long-term solution for the debt ceiling before August 2nd. Otherwise, they'll be in there talking about the 2011 Recession/Depression. All I can do is SMH and hope that when I get back from my trip to Ghana that I'm not coming back to a crisis. LOL.